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It’s Friday again! Every Friday, Lisa-Jo hosts a great party called Five Minute Friday. This is where we get one word to write about for five minutes, no editing. Today, the word is: Broken.
It must have been in some book like Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus where I read that women talk about their problems and men have this natural urge to fix them. This is so true! Women don’t usually want suggestions on how to fix the problems they encounter everyday, just to get their frustrations off their chest. When our husbands try to offer a solution, we get confused and further frustrated. If he zones out, we get irritated. First, there’s nothing broken, so don’t try to fix it. Just listening and offering a few consoling words is a huge help. If we want input on how to fix something, we’ll ask for it.
Women must understand this about their husbands as well. Try keeping it simple and not going off on random tangents – this is when you’ll see his eyes start to glaze over. Make sure you warn him before you start your rant about your terrible day that you just need him to listen to you vent. Remember, communicating about how you both think, feel, and understand each other is a huge part of keeping your relationship healthy. It’s an ongoing project.
I must have marriage on the brain, but who can blame me with less than two months until the big day! Happy Friday, everyone!
Jacque Watkins says
This is so true…and is something we've learned. So when I want to just talk about an issue, I preface the conversation with "I'm just wanting you to listen, I don't need you to fix it" and I must say, the conversation goes much better. So cool how the littlest advice makes such a big difference. So nice to visit you through FMF!